Good day Auntie Momoza, please keep me anonymous. I really need advice about my relationship.
I am a 22 year girl in a relationship with a 23 year old girl. I’m a student doing my second degree but I feel like my boyfriend is holding me back. he’s unemployed and is a deejay but honestly things are not going well. I have tried to convince him to go back to school to rewrite his matric or to apply at a college to further his education to help us shape our future but all my efforts go down the drain because he doesn’t take my advice, he always says he will apply but he doesn’t. I’ve been doing this for the past 3 years but he’s still in the same position I found him in.
I feel like he’s too comfortable in his situation and I genuinely don’t think he’s going to be able to help me fulfil the kind of life I want for myself and my future kids. We’ve been together for like 4 years honestly he’s been very supportive of my education journey and has never shown signs of being jealous of me or anything and he shows that he wants the best for me but I am worried about our future. I don’t wanna end up being in a relationship where I’ll be afraid to buy myself a car or house because it makes my partner feel less of a man.
I have been trying to push him to work on his life but he just doesn’t wanna do it he just wanna focus on producing music but honestly I don’t think it’s something that will secure his future. This year I’ve been sending him links to apply for leanerships and jobs ,I also wrote his CV for him but still he doesn’t take the initiative to apply. I even applied for a free online course for him but he hasn’t even started working on it. honestly I am tired and I feel like there’s no future here. I really love him and appreciate the love and support he’s given me but I am tired.
I forgot to mention that he’s been cheating on me from time to time since 2021. Sometimes I feel like he’s doing that to “humble” me. What can I do in a situation like this? I’d really appreciate your advice guys. thanks.