Hi Auntie, I trust you are doing well. I have a little problem with someone I call my bestie, he’s gay and I’ve accepted him for who he is even when he came out of the closet.
My problem is that he is so toxic towards me, the way he speaks to me or even treats me. There used to be times when he’d be rude towards, and when I’d voice out my concern he’d say that I like to victimize myself. He knows that everytime he needs me I’ll be there for him, but when I need him he’s nowhere to be found or even when I talk to him he’d simply mize my concerns and change the subject.
My sis sees how he treats me and when she tries to confront him I’d ask her to let it go, it’s bad to a point that even other people would question me as to why I keep being a friend to someone who treats me like this. I’ve put up with a lot in this friendship that I can state some of the things, and I don’t know if maybe I’m scared of being without a friend or what but it’s painful that I keep putting up with his treatment towards me.
I honestly want to part ways with him, but everytime I distance myself after one of his tantrums he comes back, worst part is that he doesn’t even know how to say “I’m sorry”. Not even once has he apologized after being rude, shouting at me, or mistreating me, he just acts like everything is normal.
I don’t want to be his friend anymore, and it’s like he knows that I’m his emotional punching bag, and I don’t see him changing anytime soon because we’ve been friends since high school and he’s been like that and now he’s worse than before. And I tend to blame myself, that maybe I’ve taught him how to treat me and allowed him be like this towards me…. Any advice would really help, this breaks me emotionally and mentally.